Arty Kitkat
My neices' best friends younger sister died very suddenly last Sunday. She was only 8 and absolutely adorable and was the flower girl a few months back at my sisters wedding 
Obviously everyone is in pieces. My neice has really taken it hard. She is 12 and has been so mature and brave. I don't live nearby but wanted to send her something just to let her know that she's special. I thought about looking for a little locket but wanted to make something so it was personal. I may still have a look for a little locket but does anyone have any ideas of anything I could make? I follow her on facebook and you can just see how utterly heartbroken she is.
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Thank u Sheila. I know what you're saying but I think I'm going through a lot of the old experience as it is and I'd just like to get it all out once and for all so I can draw a line under it. I feel like its casting its shadow over my life now and I don't want that anymore. I wrote a letter today to my Psychiatrist and explained the situation and said that I'd like to be referred on for more psychological help.
Thank u too Creatively for posting on here. Welcome to CO&K and thank u for sharing your experiences. I don't share your faith but I can respect the fact that it helps you and it sounds like you have found a really positive way to ease the depression. I'm a Humanist so don't believe in God/s, but I believe in people and human kindness and that the nasty and unpleasant bullies out there are by far outweighed by the kind and caring people (this site proves this!) I like the thought behind your prayer too and I hope that you continue to stay depression free. Its a horrible illness.
thank you again Sheila. I know your right and I will check the links out. I actually did something tonight that I'm also hoping will help. I had a really shitty evening and was crying loads and actually rang the out of hours telephone number for the Community Mental Health Team. I got a few things off my chest about my fear of being 'told off' and my 'being good at everything' attitude. When I was having CBT some stuff came up that I really didn't remember. I went to a Catholic school and when I was 8 and changed schools from first school to middle school my teacher in my first year really badly bullied me. I had it continually for a year and then in my second year I got this racist arsehole who used to pick on this black boy in our class about once a week. He was evil and the boy ended up leaving and he was sacked (apparently). As a result off all of this I developed problems with depression & anxiety. I used to have panic attacks and cut my arms with a compass. Nothing big but I always had this little scabs on my arms. I had to do several IQ tests, and got tested for asthma and given creams for the things on my arms that noboby could work out and I never told anyone about. I also used to have nightmares most nights. I never told my parents at the time but they guessed something was up as apparently my sister had a similar problem at the same school. My mum also had history with the teacher from church. Being 8 I had no idea. Tonight I explained all of this and said that I wanted to be rereferred to a psychologist in the team. I still feel like a little girl when I'm in a situation where I see the person as being in authority. That means all my recent appointments with my Psychiatrist have been hell. I don't hate him but I'm scared off him which I know rationally is silly but I'm scared he'll tell me off. I'm hoping that my phonecall tonight might help me to get some more therapy because I had no idea this was under the surface when I started the CBT.
You could also try explaining to him that you love him and want to enjoy every bit of the relationship. When you first start dating everything is new and exciting and they are the bits you remember and reminisce about when you've been together ages. Explain to him that you want to create as many special memories as you can. When you move in together, if its right, then its also good but things get far more familiar and everyday and not so romantic things start working there way into the relationship like housework and bills and who used all the towels (you get my drift)....
I've been with my bf 12 years and we still talk about our first date, when I first stayed over, when he used to come round and see me after he had finished his shift at the pub he worked at and all the other silly but sweet memories from the early days. We took things relatively slowly. Most of our friends seem to meet someone, snog them, sleep with them and then start going together and they seemed to be practically living together within the first few weeks. I tend to think if its good and its meant to be then you don't need to rush. You have every right to slow things down - if its a good relationship then he should get that you need time. If he is really into babies and weddings then rushing you is only going to make it less likely and scare you. I hope that helps or gives you some ideas of how to play it if you decide to talk to him.
Hi I've been able to answer some of the question and I hope the comments are helpful.
1. My taste is probably best described as quirky and eclectic
2. My favourite piece was the broken heart pendant - its different and I like the design with the springy bit through the middle and the beads. I also liked all your earrings
3. Probably the bird in flight and shooting star pendants - probably because I couldn't make out the shape, it was probably a bit too abstract for my taste. I'd also worry about it snagging on clothes or me.
I liked your banner and it was interesting. The colour scheme is really nice and also from a practical side of things it was easy to read.
I liked your photo - its a nice shot and you look comfortable having your photo taken (I have a tendency to freeze when a camera comes my way )
I'll be honest about the biography bit - I never usually read these on any of the shops, especially if they are long.
Your photos are good, especially the earrings. The only thing I would say though is that a couple weren't clear what they were, especially the first bag. It would be tough to know what would help fix it though as I think part of the difficulty is that the pattern is quite busy. Possibly you could have your first picture with some plain items like college folders or something in it - that would give an idea of size and use and would also break the pattern up so you could see it was a bag and not a cushion.
Also the punk rock scarf was tricky to work out what it looked like. Maybe you cold photograph it around someones neck or on a dressmakers mannequin.
My only other suggestion was to possibly make your titles a little shorter. I like them and they are nice and imaginative but unfortunately there must be quite a small limit on the number of characters that will get shown on your front page so, again it makes it tricky to know what things are straight away.
I hope these help. Let me know if anything isn't clear - I wasn't always sure if I was explaining things very well. Good luck with the shop though
fruitcake could be asking for trouble
Thats a very good point - I was assuming it was carrier bag plastic. Thats been used for several project on here but if its heavier duty plastic then thats a different kettle of fish :/
Thank you Sheila x Your a great agony aunt. Sometimes I write these things here to get them straight in my head. I also know we have so many of us going through the same thing that it makes me feel better to feel I'm not in it alone. A friend of mine gave me a beautiful piece of advise today re my eating habits - if you dope a horse before a race it doesn't matter how much hay you give him as he's been doped! I.e. the meds are sedating me and all the lattes and sugar in the world aren't going to change anything other than expand my tummy. I am trying to eat a few more things like nuts and seeds and things that are slow release but I think the process I go through when I eat has become really complicated. I think its partly about getting energy to overcome low energy and drowsiness and its partly a reward for getting up and keeping going and its also a cheap way to treat myself. I think I need to find other cheap ways to feel nice. I'm trying to keep a record of exercise and diet through diet.com. Its helping a little as it keeps me to remembering the facts not all the emotional baggage that goes along with the food. It also has a weight chart thing so you can see how far you are from your goal. I think I also need to stop looking for quick fixes and just go back to taking things a day at a time. It gets frustrating though and sometimes I feel like I want to press the fast forward button and get to the good bit again :/ I'm vaguely hopeful though and I really do appreciate the support and suggestions.
I was going to start a new rant called my fat belly but in reality it's not enormous and its really a side issue from the depression. For over 2 years now my appetite has been all over the place. When this most recent episode started I had no appetite at all and lost about a stone and a half in about 6 weeks. I was down to a size 12 and still depressed but depressed with a waist! When I went back to work (after being signed off for those 6 weeks) I started eating a bit more and initially it was good. I still didn't have much appetite but I was at least eating reasonably healthy stuff but when I started to go down hill again after a month of 2 of working full time I started eating less again but eating sugary stuff to give me energy and tons of coffee, mainly lattes. My weight stayed about the same but since then I've cut down my hours permenantly and my mood has developed a bit of more of a pattern. I have normally one good month, one thats a bit meh and one thats crap. I also get PMT in amongst this. Somehow my diet has turned into a mix of some regular food and a whole load of sugary stuff and coffees. This last month has been particuarly bad as I've been really low and noticed the other day that I have got a really big belly. Its out of proportion with the rest of me and I'm now having to get clothes in size 16 to cover my tum. I got asked Friday if I was pregnant - that would be dream come true but unfortunately not likely! How do I get back to the pre-depression me who ate some crap and some good stuff and felt okay. I have no energy these days cos of the depression and my meds have been increased which make me feel drowsy half of the time and right now I have a stomach ache which is probably cos I've eaten a whole load of Haribo :/
I'm on a tight budget so I'm happy to partner Rhibi - also my last partner was in the US so Australia will be a bit different
I'd be up for doing this again
I'm not sure? If I was going to experiment I'd probably put your sheet of fabric with your sheet of plastic between two sheets of greaseproof paper and iron it. I'm not sure what setting probably try several and play around with how long you keep the iron on it.
I think Dylan is lovely and I also like Xander and me and my bf have been trying for a baby for a while and we really like the idea of having a Rufus.
oooh that sound like a plan