Knittin' Kitten
Umm, adblockers people. It takes like two minutes to download.
And Zina, what you think is interesting isn't interesting for other people. If I saw an advert for a printer I'd think "What the hell? Why do I need that?" Maybe some people want to buy hair products and makeup. Sorry, but the site isn't tailor made for you.
And like Cat said, I don't know if you know anything about websites but you don't get to choose which adverts you get. Without those adverts the site couldn't run. It's just Cat and Tom doing it, and they both have full time jobs and only run this site out of the kindness of their hearts. I think we all need to take a second and actually thank them for that instead of complain about every little thing that goes wrong.
Remember guys, it's only the internet ;)
Posts by Knittin' Kitten
I get that all the time - most girlfriends don't trust me around their boyfriends, which pisses me off because I wouldn't do anything, and I have a boyfriend anyway!
It sucks but at the end of the day, you can't be friends with someone it's a constant battle with. It sounds harsh but if he's in this incredibly destructive relationship, you kinda have to leave him to it. You can be there to pick up the pieces if/when it finishes, but if it's causing you stress to be friends with him, I'd just leave it.
I've had a similar situation recently where I've received threats from a girl because I chat to her boyfriend at work - she hacked into his Facebook, sent me abusive messages then deleted me, then memorised my number so if I text him she'll know. She keeps pretending to be him and flirting with me to see if I'll flirt back. And I just can't be arsed any more. He's not happy with her but he's not gonna do anything about it and I'm not risking getting hurt. ESPECIALLY now he's started using me as a scapegoat - I didn't talk to him for two weeks, then out of the blue got a text saying "Please leave me alone, I'm not interested." Apparently he's been telling her that I'm still talking to him! So I just told him to delete my number and not get in contact with me any more.
If I was like that I just wouldn't get into a relationship with anyone. If you're that jealous, you're not happy, and you're making someone else miserable. I know where people are coming from, I've been cheated on quite a few times but you can't lump everyone in together. I'm glad that me and my boyfriend trust each other - obviously it's not implicit, and we get jealous and sometimes remind each other in a jokey way "You'd better not sleep with him/her or I'll kill you!" but we're a lot happier this way.
So this is the new rant thread =P
A lot of the time when I talk, people clearly aren't listening, or they just talk over me. I know not everything I say is thrilling, but I'm starting to feel invisible.
Oh I've had the bleach thing - when I was going from black to blonde, I paid tons to get it done at the hairdressers, and it went so very, very orange.
A little while later I dyed a streak of my hair black, and then when I tried to bleach it so I could dye all of my hair pink, it just went brown. And stayed brown. For AGES. The only thing that FINALLY got rid of it was dying my whole head dark purple.
I've had sooo many hair fail stories.
I know what you mean. I'm 19 and I've always hated people my own age. My best friends are all older and I've always dated older men. It really upsets me when I try to help something and they see a teenager near them and freak out.
I'm no model citizen, I lost my virginity at 13, I smoke and drink and take drugs, but I would never hurt or threaten anyone, I'm not rowdy, I try to help people all the time and do charity work, but I'm still looked down on for my age.
Aargh I fucking hate drama.
So there's this guy I was friends with last year, who got really obsessed with me and kept trying to get with me and was telling people we were together even though I have a boyfriend. A little while later he slept with this girl and a few days later she found out she had an STI. That's all I know and all me and another girl told our friend. But of course it's come back to him that I'm saying he gave her it.
So his retaliation? He's telling everyone that we slept together while I was with Andy. And I don't know if he's gone insane or what but he was talking to me like we HAD - calling me a skanky whore and threatening to tell Andy, and when I said there was nothing to tell he was like "Yeah, sure, we both know what you did", which you can't really say anything to. So obviously I've blocked him now but it really upsets me that he's telling people this and trying to ruin my relationship, which is going really well!
And I'm trying to resist the urge to beat the shit out of him. It's a long time since I got violent with anyone, I try to control that part of me, but no one calls me a whore for no reason.
So the only reasons he's saying this are
1) He's insane and believes it happened
2) He's making it up to piss me off and maybe had someone sat next to him that he had to prove it to
3) That one time he stayed over mine he raped me while I was unconscious
I'm just so freaked out by this, it's so absurd!
Dessah, how did you manage that?!
Since my breast augmentation, I've obviously gone up in clothes, but not by a lot. I've always been about size ten/twelve (UK) around the waist, but now I'm having to wear size 14 tops to make room. It's stupid, but that I can deal with. Today I went to H&M and tried on a size 14 dress - went easily around my body but nowhere near my chest. Size 16? Almost. I'm sorry, but it's ridiculous when someone with C/D cup breasts counts as a size 18. They just design clothes for girls with boy figures - and it's fine if you have that, but they shouldn't. Fashion industries design clothes for skinny women and then just multiply the fabric for bigger women, but it doesn't work like that - you need to add in extra room for curves! It's just annoying because now I have no idea what size I am, and I don't even have particularly big breasts.
...and I can hear Lauren downstairs now complaining to Andy about it, and he's telling her that he didn't realise where it was she wanted picking up from cause he would have gladly done that, which is total bullshit because I told him exactly where it was and he said he didn't want to.
And some guy who used to like me is telling everyone that I slept with him while with Andy. I can't handle this much drama!
Jesus, I'm the ones on meds in my house and sometimes I feel like I'm the only sane one! Lizzie's constantly angry at someone or something, so we're always on edge. Lauren, I'm sure, is verging on hypomania and is now super pissed off with everyone for not coming to meet her walk back from Aikido, even though it's a perfectly safe walk and she used to make me walk home alone down dodgy alleyways when I was drunk at 2am. Andy is either angry or too laid back for his own good. And Jake acts okay but I'm sure it's because he's just really, really repressing everything.
I'm meant to be the crazy one but I feel like everyone around me is just nuts!
Thanks guys, I'm glad I'm not just being irrational...they're making it sound like I'm being really unhelpful in not doing it, but it's very easy for them to say that when they're not risking their own money.
I've been talking it over with my dad, and we think that the easiest option is definitely to do one bill each, and Andy would do one instead of Jake (I've already asked him and he's fine with that). We're gonna talk about it at the house tomorrow but my dad's said that if everyone's still being awkward about it, he'll set up an account, sort out all the bills and we'll pay him so much every month. Because it'll be a set amount every month, we may well end up paying more than is necessary, and my dad will keep the extra as his fee for doing it. I don't want to pay more than I have to, but if everyone's being annoying and that's the only way to stop an argument, we may have to go for it.
Oh it's not my boyfriend PinkWeeds, it's my friend's boyfriend who's being a pain. And the whole being rubbish with money thing isn't exactly inspiring for the rest of us.
I looked at the contract and being lead tennant means nothing except I'm the first person to call if they need to contact us. Nothing is my responsibility. But I don't mind organising stuff - hell, I'm gonna end up organising what companies we go with and who does what anyway. I'm not trying to pass on responsibility, I'm just trying to share it out. And a little sick of always having to be the adult.
And that's the problem, that I would have to pay myself if one of them doesn't. I don't have the money to do that, I'm just a student too. They can say they'll definitely pay but if say, Lizzie gets annoyed with me and decides not to give me the money that month, I'm fucked.
I thought about the joint account thing, and may do that. The only other thing we might be able to do, is if the only problem with us doing one bill each is that Jake's refusing to take one, the other four of us do. The deal is that technically four of us are on the contract, but my boyfriend will be living there off-contract. So we could just do it so that the four of us do it and Jake just pays us. I'd rather not do that, cause me and Andy haven't even been together a year and we don't know if this moving in thing is going to work, and if he leaves then I'll have to take over managing his bill...but unless someone else steps forward and decides they want to run the one account it all comes out of, I don't know what else we can do.
Grr! I'm moving into my new house on Monday with my friends and my boyfriend. They've all been there for two weeks but because I had my surgery I had to delay coming up.
So now they're pestering me to sort out everything. They haven't sorted the internet, or a TV license, or bills. And now they've decided that the best way to do bills is all pay into one bank account which pays the bills - and I agree, that would be easiest. If it wasn't MY account they want to use.
I know I signed as lead tennant but that means nothing. They're assuming that means I have to sort out all the bills and everything, which just isn't fair, we should share the responsibility for stuff like that.
So I just suggested that we all take one bill (gas, electricity, water or internet) and we're all in charge of that one thing. We set it up, and we collect the money for it, and that way we have mutual respect. But Jake keeps insisting that he's rubbish with money so he doesn't want to do that.
What they don't seem to get is that if I make a bank account and they pay me each time bills come round, if one of them doesn't pay me, it's MY problem. And I really don't need stress like that - and Jake telling me he's no good with money doesn't exactly inspire me with confidence.
I can just see it blowing up into this huge argument. I've already had Lizzie shouting down the phone at me that I'm the lead tennant, I should sort it, but that's just so not fair. If anyone should take that responsibility it should be one of the non-students. I do NOT need to be chasing people up for money when I have a deadline, especially not with my depression and panic issues.
Can anyone think of a good solution? If not I'm happy to just rant, cause this is really bothering me, I didn't sleep because of it. And it really bothers me that they're together and just trying to pass it off onto me and I can't do anything because I'm here. Like they're ganging up on me =(
This is what I get for trying to help people.
I feel like my meds aren't working again. The last couple of days I've felt so low. It might be that the pain meds I'm on are intefering, I don't know. And all I want right now is to talk to and see my friend Ben, the one who was horrible at Sonisphere, but now he's not talking to me for some reason.
Haha that sounds about right!
This is only temporary...I'm taking a lot of painkillers and things while recovering from surgery. The Citalopram is from before that. Yeah it's hard to explain to people that you're not lazy. My mum keeps pestering me to pack fr uni, and I keep trying to tell her that I need to do it in my own time, a little bit now and then.