depression

well they only cause those side effects when abused, theraphy will not work if you are not receptive to it, if you left feeling angry its because you diddn't open yourself up, you need to let go of your anger to get better.

I think it(theraphy)works when you want it to work, its a positive thing, and when you are depressed your mind in only on the negative. You need to break down the barriers, it takes time and since you are still young, I think you will figure it out ur own way, as you grow.

I was the same way when I was your age, as I traveled, delt with my own problems I learned, and got better. I only started sessions last year, when I was willing to change.

i'm not sure if this is really part of my depression or whatever, but sometimes i feel so invisible and apparently i am forgettable too. i just moved to a new state but keep in contact with my friends from the other place thru facebook/emails. i see my friends writing on other people's walls who have moved away (the same circle of friends) saying how much they miss them and they are thinking about them but nobody ever sends me notes like that. i think i just need to get out of the house more and make new friends here and that would help but I don't have a car during the day because my husband takes it to work. i feel isolated too i guess. ok well it could be worse and i know what to do to make it better i just blue right now....

Depression sucks. Not everyone is going to understand why you are down, I know I don't always understand why I am down. I suffer from anxiety issues and OCD which just complicates things more.

I hate to say this but maybe they weren't good friends, good friends would check in and say hi.

But getting out is a great way to feel better, join a club or do a family activity

I only found out a few months ago that I was suffering depression, I had been since I gave birth to my daughter it seems. I had allowed it to get so Bad to the point I nearly ruin my relationship over it. I was so far to the point of looking at new places to live and had even gone on to single parenting payments.. but luckily my gorgeous man knew there was something wrong with me, he stood by me all while I tried to push him away. He eventually convinced me to talk to my docter who confirmed my depression, and got me onto a low dose anti-depressant. Shortly after I started taking the AD's I realised just how out of character I was behaving. In a way it really scared me that the depression was able to change me SO MUCH and I had no idea it was happening. But while everyone else around me just thought I was just making wrong deicisions, my partner KNEW something was wrong.

I also have social anxiety which also came on after the birth of my daughter, so that also contributed to my depression. I have never had a job, and now at 24 I feel like Ill never have one, especially as my anxiety grows, the idea scares me even more. I dont know if ill be able to over come the anxiety without a job and I probably will struggle with Depression while I still have anxiety, which is a nasty circle to me stuck in....
But I must say being involved with CO&K has sparked my enthusiasm for crafting which has given me something to fill my days and takes my mind off the bad thoughts, so im glad to be a part of this.

This site is great for that. Its also oddly reassuring how many of us on here suffer with depression & anxiety - it makes you feel that your not going through it alone. I would try not to think to far ahead and about jobs and concentrate on being a mum. Also try not to loose site of transferable skills you are gaining from being a mum. I know that might sound daft but as your child grows and does things like attend playgroup or mother and toddler groups you may find you take on small roles and responsibilities and they are all valuable. Also just running a home and bringing up a child is a job in itself and exceptionally valuable - imagine you won tons of money and got to hire someone to wait on you and do everything. It might remind you of just how much you do. I'd also try and look for things that build your confidence. Also in the days of the internet you can earn cash without leaving home - if you can make things like jewellery or sew things maybe look at setting up an internet shop - dawanda is good as they take commission of your sales through the site rather than charge a standing fee for showing off your items like Etsy does. Etsy is however much better known so you'd get more exposure. Just a few thoughts

Arty is so right, I find having an understanding support group helps, COAK helps me alot, just writing how I feel when I am down. I am on a high dose anti depressant, and it helps.

I think for me moving home was a good idea, I hated where I lived and the ex didn't help much, he tried, but end the end I just got so fed up with his passive-aggressive nature. So I left, and I feel so much better.

I am feeling a bit worn now, but thats due to my ostoarthrtis

How do you know when you are depressed? I thought I might have been depressed around the age of 14 when I had a lot of domestic problems with my sister. Then i thought I was fine, but recently I have been doubting myself. A lot of the time I just feel numb about everything, then occasionally I get small bouts of anxiety or feeling down about my life, it doesn't help that I have problems with my friends atm

One of my friends is getting married and i hardly see anything of her atm as it is.

The other one is having on and off problems with her bf, he treats her like crap, like he'll say he'll come down to se her and won't, doesn't even give her a phone call to say he won't. She's always giving him money and the stories he spins her makes no sense. The bf's cousin has told her that he's using again (he was on cocaine & got clean for her) and she can't see it. I know there is nothing I can do for her and she has to see the negativity in her own time, but it emotionally wears me down because neither of my other two friends are there for her as much as I am.

My third friend used to go to school with us, but nearly a year ago moved to cambridge, the first thing she said to us was to no worry that we couldnt get rid of her that easy, she'd be coming down all the time to see us. She drives, so there's no excuse not to. She comes down to London to but doesn't even tell us that she's coming down, doesn't see us, so basically a lot of the time we don't even know she's come down. And because she doesn't support my other friend with the bf problem I'm stuck in the middle of them both.

Then I've got some problems with Uni, getting sick and tired of it, just wanting to finish and find a job...

Sorry this post is long but the only person who I could talk to about this is another friend of mine, but she's depressed herself, so shes not emotionally stable to support herself, let alone me.

well if you think you may be depressed, go see your doctor. It does sound like anexity, one thing you can do is concern yourself with your problems, not your friends problems. I know its hard, but it doesn't matter how hard you try, if she doesn't see what you see, you will just get so fustrated.

how many years of uni do you have left? just concetrate on doing well, surround yourself with positive things.

I suffered from Depression and anexiety since I was 5 years old, and didn't get proper treatments till I was 25.

Depression makes you tired, feel sick, loose intrest in everything, makes you moody, have a temper...

Anxeity is like a panic feeling, like lost of control. or it is with me.

hey guys I am hosting a happygram swap, its goal to to send a cheer up card or thinking of your card to everyone who is feeling down, depressed or alone. PM me your addy if you want a happygram. Get some cheering up

That sounds like a good idea Michelle. Thanks for the advice, I don't think I'm all out depressed, I have good and bad days, I've lost interest in most things, I feel tired a lot and have a bad temper, but I don't feel sick? I'm not sure.

I'm thinking maybe it is anxiety, do you feel that way about everything or just certain aspects of your life, I do feel that I am not in control about most parts of my life, but only get panicky about certain things in my life. I know the things that I've lost control over that I could gain back but I just sit back and do nothing about it?

Maybe I'm just a bit dramatic with myself, but I know I don't feel right.. or "normal" I feel different now then I did this time last year or something, it has been ongoing for a few months now.

Depression sucks.. I also suffer from depression but I'm getting better. I used to be on hectic meds for it but luckily I'm off them now because the suicide attempts and cutting are almost completely gone. If you ever feel like you need someone to talk to I'm always here. Talking helps a lot. Hope you feel better soon. =]

I Bec - I would go with Michelles advice and see your GP? I suffered a really bad episode at uni and didn't and looking back I do regret it. Sometimes just talking to someone can be enough. If you want more info on depression check out these websites http://www.depressionalliance.org/ http://www.mind.org.uk/ and http://www.mentalhealth.org.uk/welcome/ they are all very good. I can also give you a site that allows you to do CBT online (Cognitive Behavioural therapy) and that is for Depression and Anxiety. Its a reputable site but they do recommend seeing your doctor first before starting so that you can get some support.

I Bec - I would go with Michelles advice and see your GP? I suffered a really bad episode at uni and didn't and looking back I do regret it. Sometimes just talking to someone can be enough. If you want more info on depression check out these websites http://www.depressionalliance.org/ http://www.mind.org.uk/ and http://www.mentalhealth.org.uk/welcome/ they are all very good. I can also give you a site that allows you to do CBT online (Cognitive Behavioural therapy) and that is for Depression and Anxiety. Its a reputable site but they do recommend seeing your doctor first before starting so that you can get some support.

seeing a proffessional is a must, don't selfmedicate