RANDOM RANTS!

I got so close to it - for a while Andy kept saying that I should just do it because he can't, but when she came out I was just glaring at her so I think he realised then that I was actually ready to smack her, so he dragged me away. I'm still just as angry today, and I don't know what to do...I was talking to my friend Beth there, who's Andy's mate's girlfriend and she said that Sophie has also been after Adam, her boyfriend, for about two years, and while she's not as bad to Beth as she is to me, Beth still keeps an eye on her, so it's not just me that doesn't trust her. But then Beth and Adam have been together for two years, so they're a lot more comfortable in their relationship - it's only been three months for me and Andy, and while I'm so so happy with him, I'm obviously still a bit weird, and there's an annoying combination going on of him not really having had a relationship before so not knowing the little things that could annoy your girlfriend, and me not being used to having an attractive boyfriend, so more paranoid than usual. But I'd just got over that =(

What's annoying me most is that I don't know what can be done about it. I don't think anything can. I don't want to stop hanging out with this group of people just because of her, and I don't want to feel like I can't leave Andy alone for two seconds.

I'll message you a little something you can try=) It doesn't involve breaking noses, as satisfying as that can be lol

I'm really glad you didn't act on your anger and give the cunt what she obviously deserves. I'd hate to see you get in any legal trouble over some stupid bitch. To me, it sounds as if this is a pattern for her; going after guys who are already spoken for. Someday she'll cross the wrong woman and will most likely get the shit beaten out of her. Unfortunately, I don't have any advice as to how to make the situation any better. Personally, I'd avoid her like the plague, but that's not an option in your case because you don't want to lose your other friends. But do they not see what a problem she's causing? It'd be one thing if she was only fixated on your guy, but she seems to make this a habit. Hopefully the rest of the group will see her for what she really is and weed her out. Eventually once the relationship is more evolved you'll grow more trusting and comfortable and won't have to worry about things.

I apologize for being so blunt and hostile sounding, but I'm extremely pissed off right now. But the person I'm angry with is a friend so out of respect I've decided to take up the matter one on one.

I'm really glad you didn't act on your anger and give the cunt what she obviously deserves. I'd hate to see you get in any legal trouble over some stupid bitch. To me, it sounds as if this is a pattern for her; going after guys who are already spoken for. Someday she'll cross the wrong woman and will most likely get the shit beaten out of her. Unfortunately, I don't have any advice as to how to make the situation any better. Personally, I'd avoid her like the plague, but that's not an option in your case because you don't want to lose your other friends. But do they not see what a problem she's causing? It'd be one thing if she was only fixated on your guy, but she seems to make this a habit. Hopefully the rest of the group will see her for what she really is and weed her out. Eventually once the relationship is more evolved you'll grow more trusting and comfortable and won't have to worry about things.

I apologize for being so blunt and hostile sounding, but I'm extremely pissed off right now. But the person I'm angry with is a friend so out of respect I've decided to take up the matter one on one.

I'm really glad you didn't act on your anger and give the cunt what she obviously deserves. I'd hate to see you get in any legal trouble over some stupid bitch. To me, it sounds as if this is a pattern for her; going after guys who are already spoken for. Someday she'll cross the wrong woman and will most likely get the shit beaten out of her. Unfortunately, I don't have any advice as to how to make the situation any better. Personally, I'd avoid her like the plague, but that's not an option in your case because you don't want to lose your other friends. But do they not see what a problem she's causing? It'd be one thing if she was only fixated on your guy, but she seems to make this a habit. Hopefully the rest of the group will see her for what she really is and weed her out. Eventually once the relationship is more evolved you'll grow more trusting and comfortable and won't have to worry about things.

I apologize for being so blunt and hostile sounding, but I'm extremely pissed off right now. But the person I'm angry with is a friend so out of respect I've decided to take up the matter one on one.

no kiddo, the girl deserves it. You know what guys, people like that lack social graces and morals. Don't bother wasting your time on it, tell Andy how you feel, or just snub her all together.

I did that with a girl I knew who went out of her way to break up a couple because she wanted to date him.

You don't sound blunt at all Kiddo, thank you =)

Yeah it's just the problem that she's around all the time. And I can't stop Andy from seeing his friends, even if I wanted to, it's just no fair. Andy knows how I feel and he's pretty angry with her right now for being so rude to me. Beth doesn't like her because she used to do the same to Adam, and Lauren doesn't like her because she was on the receiving end of some of it. I talked to my friend Stevie last night as well - when I was first told I was going to meet this girl who'd liked Andy for ages, I wasn't bothered at all, I'm always of the opinion that if someone else likes my partner then that's fine as long as they don't do anything about it and I trust my partner, and Stevie was telling me how nice and friendly she is and stuff, and I was hoping to make friends with her. And when she's done little things before, Stevie's just said don't let it bother you etc etc, but when I told him what happened last night he said he doesn't want to be friends with someone who treats people like that. So I do have a few people on my side - it's just the others. And they've all known her for like two and a half years, whereas I'm a fairly recent arrival, so why would they choose me over her anyway? It's just a sucky situation, and one of those which is making me want to hide in my room and cry and never come out. I feel like I'm being bullied and there's nothing I can do about it.

But I'm gonna go round Andy's in a bit and hopefully have a chat with him.

I really hate that someone so horrible is making you feel so bad. I really hope that the conversation with Andy goes well and you're able to feel better about things. Unfortunately, some people are just plain miserable and the only way they can feel good about themselves is by making life hell for others. I'm sending lots of hugs and positive energy your way.

ugh, I really havent had much to rant but now that everything is bottle up and exploding I am breaking down!

Besides getting ready to move, I am stressing over what utility companies to chose from(since i live on base i dont pay utilities) and making a list of what rooms to start cleaning and packing(and have to do this with a crazed 3 year old creating chaos lol) But that is not my main rant. My bestie of 5 years all of sudden stopped calling me and I have no clue why she stopped calling me for the whole month of Jan. She has called me every night and grew acustom to her doing so and getting my girls in bed in time so I can talk with her. I didn't understand and started getting worried that maybe she was mad at me because when I got my settlement she needed help. She needed 300 and all I could give her was half of that at the time. I had told her that once i got my settlement and pay my bills off it me and her had to go shopping! But once I got my settlement I had to catch up on debt, christmas, and getting things organized. That it seemed like we were both busy on the weekends cause she works thru out the week.

So after leaving a couple of messages on her facebook wandering if she was alright and telling her to call me was invain. I txt her today around lunch time in hopes she was on break to see if everything was alright. I got a response but it was a very hostile felt response. Short summary, she was hurt that I took my "friends" out to lunch and shopping with, I was like wait, the time that I took my "friends" out to lunch was from when my neighbor's 5 year old was being welcomed into the BIKERS AGAINST CHILD ABUSE, and I wanted to do something nice. The shopping part is when I only had my neighbor with me to find a coat the day before cause the ceramony for the B.A.C.A was being held at the next city's park and it was freezing. I never did go clothes shopping because I wanted to go with my bestie. I had bought a pair of boots, 2 pair of pants and a couple of sweaters when I was with Matthew the second night that we had our settlement and was at target to get our microwave that we need.(I am not much of buying stuff for myself so he literally had to put it in the basket for me to get) but anyway I feel like I really did do something wrong and have crying and telling myself that I am a horrible best friend.


aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhh!

you did nothing wrong, she isn't much a friend if she stops talking to you over money, and if it was the other way round, would she give the money to you?

Anyway, it was YOUR SETTELMENT. YOURS. And you get to choose what to do with it, and you were responisble with it, paying bills and getting things you needed. It was great of Mat to remind you that you need a treat too. But clothing is something we all need. Its not like you blew it all on fancy jewerly and expenisve clothing.

I am hoping it wasnt just mainly the money thing, I feel incredibly bad for making her feel like I intentionally negclected her. It sucks!@

Knittin' kitten- i don't know what to say- that gal sounds like a witch! too much drama- talk to andy about how she makes you feel and hopefully you don't ever have to hang around her again!

ah that sucks sug! i hate feeling like i let me friends down, but hopefully you guys can get together soon and you can explain there is no reason for her to feel neglected. water under the bridge and all that. no reason for you to feel bad at all, like michelle said, it's your money! and you needed to use it for yourself
it will all work out

Knittin' kitten- i don't know what to say- that gal sounds like a witch! too much drama- talk to andy about how she makes you feel and hopefully you don't ever have to hang around her again!

ah that sucks sug! i hate feeling like i let me friends down, but hopefully you guys can get together soon and you can explain there is no reason for her to feel neglected. water under the bridge and all that. no reason for you to feel bad at all, like michelle said, it's your money! and you needed to use it for yourself
it will all work out

Okay so I decided to call her after I calmed down and came back from paying for our rent and signing our lease. We talked and before I could say anything after i said Hi, she appoligized to me about earlier, she thought more about it and said she had outside influences telling her and making her insecure about our friendship. Out of our five years of friendship she knew me better than that and knew I would never intentionaly make her feel that way. Everything seems to be okay but we will discuss it more tomorrow since its late. I am so glad she understands and I feel so much better that I was not this "horrible" friend like i thought earlier(just so much stuff going on I am stressed and emotionally crazy).

So lets see how this goes, cause I do miss my bestie.

see hon, I told u it would blow over(we were talking on msn) glad it worked out