Ideas for healing a little persons grief?

My neices' best friends younger sister died very suddenly last Sunday. She was only 8 and absolutely adorable and was the flower girl a few months back at my sisters wedding Happy Obviously everyone is in pieces. My neice has really taken it hard. She is 12 and has been so mature and brave. I don't live nearby but wanted to send her something just to let her know that she's special. I thought about looking for a little locket but wanted to make something so it was personal. I may still have a look for a little locket but does anyone have any ideas of anything I could make? I follow her on facebook and you can just see how utterly heartbroken she is.

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8 replies since 1st April 2010 • Last reply 1st April 2010

Reply #1:

oh my goodness that is tragic and sad news!!! There are no words that can soften those wounds at this time. I really like the locket idea, or a charm with two hearts intwine into one(something to keep near her heart), or you can make her some type of plushie or pillow(something to hold) or maybe a personalize journal for her to use to help her with her grief. Just some ideas out there, my very first true love and first fiance past away in his sleep back in 2001, I was torn, so I am hoping some of these ideas help out any, because I had made one of his guitar pics into a necklace that I worn for a few years after he had passed and I made a journal for myself to write my dreams and thoughts in to help me with my inner pain. Luv ya woman and my condulances to you and her family!

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how tragic Happy
i love the journal idea.
you could also write something inspirational in the front of it.
or decorate it so it has inspirational quotes and such.
a journal would be great for her to write down her thoughts and everything.
you could make her a bracelet or something too Happy
i would love to recieve that. just plain round beads of her favourite colour ( or the other girls favourite ) and add a special charm.
Happy good luck with everything.

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I like the idea of a journal. I just remembered that when one of our clients at work died we sprinkled forget me not seeds in the garden so I might send some of those too. I also like the bracelet idea as I have some pretty letter beads so I could put her initials in the bracelet. Thank u both of you.

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That's so sad Happy
I like the idea of the journal too and the locket is a brilliant idea. I have a memory box that I have put things in as my daughter as grown up that I am going to give her on her 18th. Maybe your neice could make a memory box to put things in to remember all the fun times she had with her friend Happy

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or even combine the two colors on the bracelet.

im so sorry for your loss. Happy

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Reply #6:

if you have money you could always make a box of comfort, a stuffy, her favorite treat, the necklace, the jornal (maybe fill it with little notes randomly through out it from you or good quotes, not fill the journal, but on the bottom of every twenty pages or so) and add a couple other things. She is very young for this kind of heart ache so it might be best for her if you give her a couple things to hold on to. a dollie possibly? i pray for you and your family, i cant even begin to understand how you feel.

my heart goes to you!

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Reply #7:

My heart goes out to all families. If the family allowed it, maybe your neice could have an item of clothing made into a pillow or a bear. When my son passed away last year, we used his Arsenal shirt and made a bear which we then put in his memory box.

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Reply #8:

Thank you everyone for you ideas. I spoke to my sister and my niece the other night and she seems to be bearing up and over the initial shock. I didn't know the family very well but my heart really goes out to them. It feels surreal that a few months ago the group of them were all getting dressed up for my sisters wedding and giggling and laughing and having so much fun. You can see it in the photos from the day too and I've looked at those photos loads since the day and long before the sad news. I am going to send her down a little locket I have as I looked in loads of shops over the weekend and on ebay and several websites and nothing really grabbed me. She apparently keeps a diary already so I'm also going to have a look around for some little treats too and I'm going to send her the seeds for forget me nots. I've always found something healing in seeing something grow. Also the flowers are so pretty and small and they will apparently flower next April.

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