MEN!

...I have a problem.

So theres this guy that I've pretty much liked the whole school year and when school let out I thought 'okay, now time to go watch some Johnny Depp movies and get over this guy'. And I thought it worked until I was just idly thinking about next year and what its gonna be like then BAM...He's back. Now, normally I would be like 'meh. whatever. you're way above his league so it'll be easy to date him.' (which sounds TERRIBLE but normally is the case with guys I like). ANYWAYS. The thing is that this boy, we'll call him...umm...N?

Anyways N used to be in the same social circle as me but now N has moved on to bigger and better social-ness and I have stayed with my friends. So we talk sometimes but not a ton. We're friends but not close friends.

So the empowered feminist me is all "SCREW IT!!! TEXT HIM!!! MAKE A MOVE!!!"

And then the shy me is all "Oh...well...someone get me Pirates of the Caribbean and some ice cream please?"

But I digress.

My problem is that I really like this guy but I'm not his type AT ALL. His type is...generic girl. I am not generic girl. Also, there is no way he would date me. Ever. Unless flying pigs flew out of the frozen-over hell.

But I really really really really like this guy

WHAT DO I DOOOOOO?
/tangent

ok i know this is said way too often give it a ry what do you have to lose and well to many of us if they aren't intrested its embarrising

but i had a huge crush on this boy devin in my swim p.e and he flirted with me and even asked me out but i thought our mutal friend who was quite scary pressured him into so i said no then like a year later on myspace he left me a message bout how he liked me so much and it hurt when i turned him down because he liked me the first time he saw me cause i was different he had seen me and a swimsuit

The moral i missed out because i was to scared if you really like him take a chance if he dosen't return the feeling least you'll never had the what if and i think you are wonderful who wouldn't like you being different is often a plus not a minus

Yeah, I mean, normally I would think being different is GOOD. But, he described the kind of girls he likes on his myspace page and I don't fit that description at all.
Wow, that sounds really stupid when I type that.

I just don't want him to be all..."oh, lets just be friends." I felt bad enough having to tell that to someone and I would hate to have to go through it myself.

It's decided. I will...text him? Maybe. If I dare.

ooh hope you do it if you do tell us how it goes

I'll try. But he's just so...Anberlin and 102.1 (no offense, I listen to 102.1 every now and then) and....so into Generic Girl(tm).

And....ugh what if I say something mom-creepy like "I was thinking of you"
And what if he never answers? I'll be jittery and checking my phone every 5 seconds all day...

yeah but it will be better than all next year going wa he flirtin with me am i reading to far into this does he likee me or doesn't he

Yeah, true. Its just that what if I text him and actually get to know him better, etc. then he turns around and goes SO I GOT A GIRLFRIEND

Ok, I need to suck it up and text him.

Tomorrow.

yeah if he has gf that be a downer

yeah. maybe I'll try to get over him.

how do you go about permanently getting over a guy?

aside from watching sweeney todd five times in a row, of course

hmm never really happens i have guys i liked or dated that i'd probably date again cause i never really got over them

The guys I've dated...are done. I got over them quickly.

But this boy... : why can't he just, like, call me and say something like "IVE LIKED YOU FOREVER NOW PLEASE BE MY GIRLFRIEND FOR A LONG TIME"

because that happens

I always kind of just....got over guys...like...I didn't need the whole crying bit or anything (except for one guy)....but yeah....pretty much just got over them like it was no biggie.

When I went to the Gymnasium ( I think its comparable to high school?) I admired this guy, singer in a band, played guitar and was really interested in what's happening on the world. I think i somehow loved him for 4 years, but I soon figured out, that I wasn't his type. But I knew that i'd not get over him if I didn't try... I told him that I loved him and he said in a very kind way that he did not feel the same way.
It didn't change things that much... I still admired him when I saw him on stage (and I never missed a gig). But I met other guys and there were times that i was in love with 3 guys at the same time... In a way it's a great time and even if your love is not returned it's still beautiful because you feel so alive... I loved these years!
Later I had a boyfriend for 1,5 years at university and he was so immature, 27 years old and still living with his mom, not having a real profession or anything but he thought that he was the best! I got him to move out and I really loved him for he could talk so good and was such a good listener. But he made his exams at university and never passed -he just couldn't see that it wasn't his thing... He tried again 'till he got thrown out and then he just sat at home doing nothing, using his parents money and I broke up with him for he didn't care for me neither...
some months before that I met a girl, she was really cute and absolutely into women. Someday when she was talking about that girl she had fallen in love with, I realized that i was jealous... That was really funny for I never thought of that before. it was that day that I broke up with my boyfriend. I got over him really well, and we still had good talks and everything. I stayed away from the girl for a month because i would have had the feeling to still be cheating on my ex-boyfriend. Falling in love needs time and getting over someone needs time too... You can break up with someone in a second but really finishing takes at least as long as falling in love... thats my experience.
Well after some weeks I got together with the girl and we are now together for 3 years (tomorrow )
half a year later my ex told me that the day after I broke up with him, he slept 10times with a 10years-older women he knew from the internet. And I felt guilty for kissing a girl two months later... Isn't it ironic? And this meant that he had been on sex-chats all the time when we still were together...
We separated for good and now, 3years later i almost hate him for being so selfish... (he somehow managed it to hurt me even after we quit).

What I tried to say with all this: somtimes you feel good and later you'll find out, that it was a lie. Sometimes you feel bad and later you'll find out that it was better that way. And after all, you never know where you'll end up! But you can still enjoy all these feelings for they make you feel alive. Ant thats really great about love- fulfilled or unfulfilled.

I like him but it's pointless to, because I am not a good girlfriend (not because I cheat, ignore, etc.), just because I don't know how to! I get all nervous and can't talk and I can't flirt and ESPECIALLY not with this guy.

It's just so typical, you know? I'm the weird girl who likes the popular guy. -_-"" I just want some closure. Like, either I like him and something comes of that, or I need to get over him and move on.