Advice Page!

I've noticed a few problem posts and thought it might be a nice idea to have a topic page for advice. I.e. you post your problem and people can try and give you a hand. Hoping this might work a bit.

I guess im guilty in admitting that I have a problem and wouldn't mind some advice. No-one i've spoken to seems to know how to solve it...so im gonna put it in here.

I've been with my boyfriend for about 4 months and everything is going really well. I am in a group of friends at school of about 8 people (I know my boyfriend from outside of school) and most of them are really supportive and are happy that I am happy with him. But 2 of them are being really awkward (guys), they are repeatedly making fun of him behind his back (more so now that I have turned 16 ...innuendos and stuff). I really don’t know what to do. I have asked them to stop but they haven't. They don’t do it in front of him, which is a good thing, but they won’t meet up with me if I’m with him either (and will then say things about me behind my back saying that I ditch them to be with my boyfriend – which I don’t, I go to everything they plan unless I have already committed to something else e.g. holidays or extra work experience). Thankfully it doesn’t bother my boyfriend – he is a very laid back person and takes things in his stride – but I still feel it’s unfair. I don’t want my boyfriend to come in between my friendships but I don’t think I have done anything wrong to deserve this. Is it just jealousy – because they’ve kind of done this with other friends when they have boyfriends – or what?


So yeah, post your issues and stuff, We can all pitch in and help XX

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4 replies since 3rd September 2009 • Last reply 3rd September 2009

Reply #1:

It sounds like a bit of jealousy. The best advice I can give you is..........ignore it. I know you don't like hearing that kind of advice, but if you really want to be with your boyfriend and if it's not bothering him, why should you let it bother you? Let it be. They are just saying things, it's not like they are doing anything to physically damage your relationship with your boyfriend. If your boyfriend is okay with it, then let it go...he's okay with it for a reason...and that's cuz he knows he wants to be with you regardless of it all.

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Reply #2:

I agree with KT, ignore it and that may stop the annoyance if they see that it doesn't bother you. I'm sure if it's jealousy or not but it seems to me that they aren't keen on the idea of having a new person in the mix, if he hangs out with you all or not. If they do this with other friends, most likely they need someone to be butt of their jokes, innuendos, bullying or whatever. Like KT said, if it doesn't bother your boyfriend, then don't let it bother you. In short, don't waste your time giving them the satisfaction of them knowing that they can get to you.

And yeah, neat idea about the advice board, you just started it! LOL ^_^

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Reply #3:

I'd agree with that too. It sounds like they're being really immature and it does sound like sour grapes/jealousy on their part - either cos they were interested and didn't get their arse's in gear or cos they want to be going out with someone or wish they were more like him but either way thats not your problem and you should do your best to let it wash over you. Creative's right - don't let them get the satisfaction of knowing they are getting to you. Good luck though.

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Reply #4:

yea they must like you.Guys do stupid crap like that i say just ignore it theyll realize its not tyhat serious and move on they cant talk about him forever.if they do just realize theyre being idiots o knw you may not want to loose thier friendship but theyre being very ubfriendly. i say threaten them with the loss of your friendship either they will straighten up or keep acting juvinile.

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