Death In The Family

So last thursday morning my grandfather passed away. For the past three months he's been in the Simcoe Hospice in my city. The Hospice is a place where people who cant stay at home go to have their final days. It's kinda a family envoriment to make the person who's there feel at home as well as the family who's visiting.For the past 3 months nearly everynight or every other night me and my mom had been in to visit my grandpa. He just started to go downhill during september, so we knew it was just a matter of time. We've already had the visitation and funeral. But because i went to see him so much, i feel like every night me and my mom should still be going up to the hospice. I don't feel like he's gone.

I just wanted to let everybody on coak know that this is why over the past while my swaps have been late to send out. I always used to bring my crafting projects to show my grandpa and wo work on while i was there. It really brightened his day when i brought in my completed stuff to show off while visiting. My familys always been really crafty

Anyways , thank you all for listening to my little ( depends on how you look at it) rant about my life ongoings.

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20 replies since 22nd October 2010 • Last reply 22nd October 2010

Reply #1:

Sorry about your grandpa, it's never easy to lose someone you love. Im sure everyone here understands your situation and won't hold it against you.

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Reply #2:

*hug* I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. I'm going through the same thing with my grandma that has cancer, so I know just how hard it is. Like kitty said, I'm sure everyone will understand.

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hugs:::

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Reply #4:

Aaawww honey ((hugs)) I can totally sympathise, well more or less. My Granddad passed away in March (this year) however it was totally unexpected.

My Granddad went into hospital for a breathing problem, but he was showing signs of improvement, me and my mum, and my aunt alternated visits. However the day before he died I was at Uni and my Uni bus goes past the hospital so I got off at the hospital and visited him and I'm glad I did. Me and my mum went to visit my sister 150 miles away Friday evening. Saturday morning we got the call saying that he'd passed out and had a heart attack and were struggling to keep him stable.

I tend to deal with things through either denial or not thinking about it, but I when I do think about him I get upset. Like you were used to visiting your Granddad everyday so was I, because he lived next door to me.

You won't feel like he's gone, not for a while. When you talk about him you will in present tense sometimes because you haven't got to that realisation yet, it's ok, it's natural, I did it.

Just take solace in the fact that he's not in any more pain, it's all you can do. And seek comfort in those around you Happy

(hugs)

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Reply #5:

I am sending all my good vibes. x

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Reply #6:

my condoles! ♥♥

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Reply #7:

Sorry to hear about your loss hun! *hugs*

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Reply #8:

You were blessed to have him, hugs too!

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Reply #9:

I'll be sure to include you and your family in my prayers! I know how difficult that is my uncle (who was like my grandfather since my grandfather has been out of my family for good reasons) passed away in febuary and I'm still feeling pretty down because of it so I can sympathize with how hard these next few weeks will be. Keep positive!

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Reply #10:

*hugs* sending lots of positive vibes your way

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Reply #11:

Thank you al for your nice comments
@ Lolly
It was great that you and your family did visitation shifts. When my grandpa was in the hospice it was basically me and my mom every night. All the other family only came up once or twice a week. My grandmother even flew my uncle home from B.C to visit. And he only would go when he was told, like every two weeks. And my aunt who doesnt drive would only go when she was called. She used the fact that nobody called her to go as an excuse to fight her guilt of not seeing her father.

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Reply #12:

Sorry for your loss *hugs*. He'll appreciate you thinking of him Happy

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Reply #13:

Angel Eve: We only did the shift visits for the few days he was in hospital. My Granddad had strokes and lots of other stuff wrong with him and because he lived next door to me, me and my mum ended up looking after my Granddad 99.9% of the time. My auntie, uncle and their kids hardley ever saw my Granddad and said they regretted it after he passed, yet they never see my nan!! You tend to find that the looking after of elderly parents/grandparents tend to fall onto one of serveral sibling;grandkids.

I always found it nice talking to people on hear, especially those who have suffered a recent loss as well... we are always here to talk to about anything!!

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Reply #14:

Sorry to hear of your loss *hugs*

I know how you are feeling, my Mum passed away last year, and I still feel a great loss every day. I take strength from my happy memories, and all the things she taught me about life.

Try to keep strong, and remember all the good times you had together in the past. As time goes on you will find it easier, and look back with fond memories.

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