BO

if she does not want to wear deodorant tell her to rub alcohol under her arms that destroys the bacteria that causes BO or maybe she really just has to get to the age where its more important to her maybe she just likes to stink you out .sounds like my younger daughter she is the stinky one she forgets to wear it .spray her with some glade to be honest it really does make a good spray for clothes.and peace darling lets call a truce

My sister is 20 and is the same way. She totally refuses to shower and forget trying to get her to wear deoderant. You can tell when she is in the house without even seeing her. The whole family has tried to get her to change but she just doesn't care. We have to wash everything she touches as soon as she leaves because it's THAT bad. We still don't know what to do about it, I guess some people just don't care about good hygiene.

How antisocial, she must be a teenager?

Some of my friends refuse to shave under their arms x_x I almost die when they lift their arms. Im not perfect, but I do my best.

umm frebreeze the place?

maybe its a phase

Maybe you could recommend a natural deodrant? Some people don't like the stuff that's put into it and therefore don't wear it. But if she is aware she smells and has been told and still isn't doing anything about it then all I can do is say ask a doctor. It's affecting your living condition, it could be a psychological reason?

How old is she?I think its just a phase and it will pass.

yeah, I say it will pass.

I am allergic to most deordant, but I use my homemade soap in the shower, and no BO probs

does she have a tendancy to be depressed?

I have been through depression before and you just lose all willingness to do anything, including bathing, it just seems pointless.

I don't think she's depressed. I'm worried because she's almost fourteen and will be starting High School and kids are mean, I don't want her to get made fun of.

I actually used my hair spray and hosed her down. I don't know, I hope it is a phase though. And thanks for these tips, I'll talk to her about them and maybe she'll cave!

Yes, truce blufairy!

Maybe try buying her a perfume she likes as a "welcome to high school" present? It's not deoderant, but it could be a start.

Just, if you can afford it, take her to a department store and get something good. The stuff at Walmart isn't the best... you want something that smells GOOD. ;)

Ah! I didn't even think of that! Thank you! I'll take her to the department stores at the mall when my job starts. That just may work!

Cool! I had a good idea! :-P

One of the clients I used to work with used to get really wiffy BO and I think hers may have been hormonal. She's used to get horendous periods too and was overweight and felt pretty crappy about her body. I found that this is an occasion where you do have to be quite straight talking. As you said, kids can be cruel and its better she hears it in private from her sister who cares than get called names as high school. I used to tell my client that it was a problem but that it was the best kind of problem because its really easy to fix. Also check that she is changing sanitary towels/tampons regularly if her periods have started and that she is changes her underwear daily and putting her t-shirts in the wash. I found that the problem needed a double pronged approach - clean clothes, washing properly and daily and deodarant plus lots of positive comments when she gets it right. Even if she is still a little wiffy praise her on the improvements she has made.