who else feels like they will be alone forever?

ok, my friend told me to join a dating site, and I get all these really sexual messages from men, its like do you act like this off the computer, if so/or not ... I am so blocking your ass. Learn how to speak to a woman. ggesh

i know 14 year old boys arent EXACTLY what theyre gonna be like in the real world...its just this one boy ive liked him forever and the feelings never really been reciprocated.
its really disappointing...ive liked him on and off since 3rd grade - im in 9th now. its just hard knowing that he's never ever ever thought of me like that and nothing will ever come out of that

Don't feel so down, Courtney.

I've had my share of heartbreak too. Ever since I was in elementary I was dorky and awkward and boys never really liked me. It didn't help that I was a lot taller than most of my friends (girls and boys) and I was/am rather fat. Boys thought it was fun to dare each other to pretend to ask me out, or to flirt with me to get something, like for me to do their homework. I really hated my first two years of high school. My "friends" had a habit of dating the guys I liked. I really did think I'd be alone forever. But then... I met my current boyfriend when I was 16 and.. he's perfect. He's my first everything. He's made all the pain I went through in my adolescence so very worth it. I really feel that there's someone for everyone, we just have to be patient. I had given up on finding a partner when my boyfriend came along. We've been together for 3 years and we hope to get married once we're done with school and have our ducks in a row.

thats great pepperette

aww Pepperette thats awesome!

That's sweet =)

Andy's started being a lot cuter, which is nice. I emailed him the other night and said that I need to know if he really likes me or not because I don't want to get hurt, and I'm happy to just be friends with him because he's a great person, I just need to know before he sleeps with someone else! And he replied that he does really really like me and hasn't felt this way in ages, and that he's a typical guy in the sense that he doesn't know how to express emotions but he's not a typical guy because he's not gonna sleep around behind my back and stuff. And the last two nights I've stayed over at his and he cuddled me, which was nice, cause normally we'll have sex then go out for a cigarette straight away, and he likes space when he's sleeping so don't normally get cuddles then but he's started doing that now =) I do like him a hell of a lot...I don't know about long-term, I'm not really thinking about it because we've only been together a few weeks and right now, I don't want anyone else and he's making me happy, and that's all I need to stay in a relationship. It does keep preying on my mind though that he finishes uni next year, whereas I have another two years left...and during holidays this year, we're gonna be really far apart if we both go home...

I go through stages of despairing that I'll be alone forever, and then not caring and being glad I'm single. I had my first boyfriend when I was 16 and we were together for two years, I thought he was the one, I was ready to lose my virginty to him, but he kept saying no, he wanted to wait, then I found out that he was cheating on me. He was sleeping with my Brother.
It broke my heart and I didn't go out with anyone for another three years, and then my new boyfriend slept with someone else (a girl he worked with). Again I didn't date again for two years and again he cheated on me. at this point I decided to stay single forever so I wouldn't get hurt again. Then I bumped into an old childhood friend and we started to hang out, after about three months we decided that we wanted to be in a proper relatonship and everything was going really well, I actually felt in love enough to lose my virginity to him, then two months ago, his ex-girlfriend turned up at his house,six months pregnant with someone else child, engaged to someone else, begging him to take her back. He rang me and told me that he loved us both, but he loved her just a bit more and didn't know what to do. well I'm sorry but I won't stay with someone who doesn't love me the most. so I split with him.
The only thing that bothers me is that I'm now 29 and I really want a child, but there doesn't seem to be any sign of that ever happening for me.

well you could always adopt a child? Is that an option for you?

I was with an insurecure man who doubted evertything hed did, even our relationship. He kept saying that I would find someone better, which made me depressed, and in the end it just did me in. It was like get a back bone man, I can't deal with this crap and broke up with him.

I have only been in love once, like really in love. But havn't had anything like that since then. I settled for my last bf because I didn't want to be alone

yeah I thought about adoption, or fostering, the thing is I am a full time carer for my grandmother who lives with me now, so that probably isn't an option right now. maybe in the future though. if I don't meet anyone.
I think your ex probably had some abandonment issues, a friend of mine was the same way, he said to every gf that they were too good for him, and everyone of them got fed up after a while and left. his dad had left when he was only a baby but he'd never discussed how he felt about it, then when his last gf left he had a breakdown got some councelling talked it all out and realised that his dad leaving was the root of his problems. he has been married for the last three years.
but I couldn't have lived with the constant self pity so I understand whyyou dumped him.
it's nice to be able to rant, and get and offer support like this. thanks for the advice.

well I think that since he comes from a broken home, twice over. I think it was his problem and I told him he needed to get help. I saw a theraphist for my problems. You can't force people, but you can encorage them to get help. It takes something major in a persons life to change

courtney-- i feel your pain!! i'm 15 and i've never been out with anyone, never kissed anyone either, and i feel alone too!! i'm short, the youngest in my year, and look like about 12 on bad days (quite a lot of the time!) so i get what you mean... i've liked a guy since year 8 (i'm from england-- now i'm in year 11 btw) and i never know where i stand with him... i dont know if he ever liked me but i still like him and i'm finding it so hard to get over him. there arent really any other guys i know who are particularly special, and i guess they just wouldnt date me anyway...

you seem such a great person, really cool... i dont get why anyone wouldnt like you. i guess its such a cliche but guys like the jerks you know just arent worth it. there will be someone, one day, who will love you as you are... hang on in there, i'm there with you too!! x

short and sweet is right court, you will find someone

Yes ,but I'm not in a hurry to look for somebody. Right now I'm just going to concentrate on getting financial aid and sewing.

good for you

*raises hand*
But I'm not single @ the moment.
I have a really awesome bf.
But... I don't think this is going to last. (Because he doesn't.)
Keeps giving me random "hints" like, 'what if I confront you' when I told him I didn't like confrontations, & he's going to move to another country & doesn't believe he's going to live past a certain age, can't imagine getting married or having kids.
When he says things like that, it really pisses me off. But most of all, it makes me sad :

And, as stupid as it might sound, I decided this was the last bf I was going to try for a <i>very long time</i>. (I'm only turning 19)
I can't seem to be able to stay single for long. (Longer than six months or so.)
But I'm tired of the heartbreaks.