Is this the one?

Personally, I think that it's useless to be wondering whether someone is 'the one' or not. Just take things the way they come.
The most important thing is to feel good in your relationship. Of course there will be hard times, but as long as you don't feel completely unhappy, you can overcome them.

I think wondering about 'the one' doesn't do you or your relationship any good. It can even have a negative effect. Sometimes people worry so much about what can go wrong or whether something is right, that they unconciously create the cause for problems. And it can't be pleasant for your partner when they notice that you have doubts.

I'm not sure I really believe in 'the one' anymore, which is why I think it's much more important to enjoy the time you spend together, and to make the very most of it.
If things go wrong, so be it, at least you had those precious times. You will always cherish the memories, and most likely the experience will teach you valuable things and maybe even make you a better person.

Actually, I was in love with my first boyfriend when I was 12/13, and I still hold that to this day - it most definitely wasn't lust, he kinda pushed me into all that stuff. I maintain it's possible but yeah, a healthy sense of scepticism is always a good idea.

I know how you feel Jessica, all the way through my relationship with Tim I was told that I was too young to be in love (started going out at sixteen, broke up at eighteen,) but I did love him. I don't know, I've never believed in the concept of "the one", or a "soulmate"; I think people usually use that as an excuse, either as a reason why they don't try and make it work in a relationship or to cover up the fact that there's really nothing there. I think it's too easy to go "Oh, he wasn't the one" just because he didn't serenade you from the rooftops or whatever. It doesn't work like that. I know it sounds pessimistic, but I've always figured that the person you can be together with forever, the person you don't fight with, is the person you're comfortable with and are friends with (as well as still wanting to have sex with them after a while). That's the important thing to me - I've always loved big, dramatic relationships, but I know that I'd never enter into any kind of contract with those people, cause I'm just not comfortable with them.

I don't think dramatic relationships are healthy, I think a perfect relationship is one when you are good friends with each other, you are happy and comfortable

There is only one thing that gets to me about my boyfriend. When he skips school for no good reason. Usually I nag him about it and tell him that its really important he comes. Due to my no good PMSing I just had to give him a full blown lecture that hit a few sore spots with him.

Afterwards I had a great sense of regret. Throughout the conversation he never raised his voice and stayed calm. I made him sad, but he was calm and agreed that it was wrong of him to miss school. I was the one who cussed, yelled, and badgered that he was going to get in a lot of trouble. Even if I was right that was no way for me to behave.

The next day I said I was sorry with a heartfelt apology letter and his favorite candy. He gave me a teddy bear, which I don't feel like I deserve. I asked him why he was saying sorry and if he was angry at me. He said no, that I was right, and that he only loves me more for caring so much. Plus by now he understands how moody I can get.

When he doesn't get mad at him when I expect him to be it only makes me all the more confused. Wondering for a couple of days if this kind of person is too good to be true. And I do in fact check if he really isn't upset. He just acts like his usual, loving self.

... I need to buy him more candy.

I don't think there's an age barrier on love. You can find love no matter how young or old you are. Also, I don't agree that if you fight, it won't last. If you two NEVER have a disagreement, then someone is hiding something. I know it's a huge blanket statement, but it's one that I've found to be consistent.

My boyfriend is my best friend. I asked him last night if he thinks I'm "the one," and he said yes. I think the same thing about him. We argue sometimes, but we still love (and like! That is a big one!) each other. I would be surprised if this ended up not working out.

I think all relationship needs work, you will fight, thats a given. But not fighting, well thats just strange huh. Arguments are just normal

Caity O. I have that feeling. Trust me when the right man steps up to your door you'll know it. It's kind of hard to explain... I always thought it was a cliche myself, but trust me it's not!
Trust your instincts and follow your gut and NEVER settle for second best! If you have a hint of doubt then he/she is not the best match for you and you should continue the search. The corner stones of any relationship is trust, communication and respect. Never EVER compromise on any 1 of these 3 things!!!

Tracy, I agree with what you say, but is it really always that simple? It can be hard to end something, even when you know (s)he's not the best match. Then the doubts come, what if you won't find another or a better one? Isn't it better to settle for second best than to be alone? I think this is what makes so many people settle.

I see it with my ex, he's living together with a girl and I know that she isn't all he wants. More importantly, he knows. But he's just afraid of being alone. I realised after ending our relationship that I needed to figure out things for myself before I could have a healthy relationship, but he never did. I am convinced that if he could just try to do that, he might even be happy one day. But instead he's accepted that he can never really be happy, and that he is just settling for the easy option, and security.
The ex of my friend is just the opposite, he seems to keep looking for something else, without realising what he has/had. Again, he should first figure out what he wants, but he avoids it by being in a relationship that probably isn't going anywhere.

I think so many people are too afraid of ending up alone to really do as their heart tells them.

And it's definitely not healthy to never fight or at least argue a bit in a relationship. My sister and her husband seem to be arguing every day, and it's been that way for almost 10 years, they have the cutest little daughter now, and it just works. If you don't argue, you bottle up everything (is that the right expression?), and in the end it will explode and cause serious damage. As long as you actually have normal conversations and enjoy each others company as well, not like my parents who only seem to be able to talk in arguments

"Love is like a war - easy to start but hard to end".

I think one needs to figure out why the thought of being alone seems so scary, and then address those issues. You shouldn't define yourself by your relationship status (in my opinion). Having a bf/gf doesn't necessarily make you a better or more successful person. What's wrong with being a single independent woman?