Tick Tock.... Biological clock ticking..

ok i don't want kids but i have the fear of being the 40 year old virgin i'm almost 21 and it won't be at all cool my mom actually makes jokes that i'll die a virgin i mean by the time she was 20 she had 2 kids and a husband

yeah, but its all up to you, you need to find mr right

I agree, finding the right man is the most important bit. I didn't till I was 22 and I'm still with him at 34 so try not to stress. I did and now when I look back it seems such a shame :/ I wasn't to fussed about kids until I was 29 then it was like something clicked in my head and then it started to feel important. Its hard to explain.

I know, its like a alarm clock

Yeah, Arty...they say late 20's early 30's is when people are like....ahhhh i need to spawn some children....okay, well maybe not worded that way..but yeah.

I'm only 22, so I have a lot of time left...haha!

sigh, when I was 22 I was living in China and was on boyfriend #5. I was out partying it up, I was a club kid, out every night. I think when I hit 24 I was like screw it, and stopped clubbing and dating. I think I wanted a break

I met my boyfriend when I was 17, three years later its still going strong (I'm 20) he just turned 23 today! and he'd only had one proper girlfriend before me and I'd never had anything proper, just random kisses with mostly random guys. I was out clubbing at 16 and I haven't been out for ages, I can't afford it and I'd rather go to a pub and for a meal then to clubs. I do like going to clubs having a drink and a dance but it's the getting ready getting there and getting home again parts I just hate. And being hungover. You can't find people who want something proper in clubs!

sorry went off on a rant then!

wow he was the age I am now when he met me! and I thought him being 20 was such a big deal and that it was very grown up etc. Obviously I'll always be younger then him but me at 20 seems younger then he was at 20...i can't explain you know what i mean!

so yeh its so fustrating when you haven't met someone or had anything proper but it doesn't matter because it will happen I think, but it's hard not to feel down about it.

I was never really the party type of girl...I'll drink and stuff..but I'm just not very social...ha. (and I am always on these boards)

Also, I've been told I'm mature for my age. Maybe that's why I want things older people do.

...I know this is going to sound strange..but I kinda want old people love (not the nasty 'ew' i don't want to imagine that kind of thing)...but...the unconditional no matter what I'll always be there kind of love.

Anyway, love is patient, love is kind....

I can wait.

you know, thats right. Love in important

Someone else I know has told me that they're 2 months pregnant. Obviously it was hard to hear what they were saying after that. I could just hear ticking...... Nevermind, I am happy for her. She'll make a great mum. I'm just sort of hoping its like a deli counter - you take your ticket and wait your turn. Although I'm also aware (tho only at the back of my mind) that it could never happen or I might not be able to conceive. I've thought about it and talked in the past with my bf and I wouldn't want to find out. I also wouldn't want any fertility treatment. I don't want to be one of those women you read about who are forever taking their temperature and plotting graphs. I think that would be really clinical and I'd be worried that we'd loose some of the romance. I'm also a sucker for love and romance I just hope that if it doesn't happen for me that I have the strength to accept that.

Don't waste your time constantly looking forward till you have a baby. Enjoy the time you have now...enjoy practising making a baby ;)

If I couldn't have children I would like to know but I wouldn't bother with fertility treatment. I would go straight to adoption or buy more doggies. But adoption takes a long time and I do wonder now if with all the fertility treatment available if they would look at whether or not you've had treatment etc.

Don't worry I don't sit waiting for a baby. At the moment its out of the question anyway cos of meds and stuff. I also love my bf to bits and would never risk what we have for some unknown. I think I could cope if I couldn't conceive but I think he'd feel thoroughly crap and I'd never want him to go through that. Don't get me wrong, its really important but not more important than him. Its a different kind of important, more instinctive or primal or something. Its really hard to put into words :/ Its as if my head is saying one thing but my body is saying something else.

I think you are right, its like a urge. But I am not going to wait around