Wedding guest etiquette

I was wondering if anyone could help me out on this, as I don't know much about wedding etiquette and I know its a tricky subject that a lot of people get upset about.

A male friend has kindly invited me to his wedding (the wedding not just the reception).
Background: this friend is actually an old housemate from a houseshare I lived in about 3 years ago. We exchange texts a couple of times a year and maybe the odd phone call but other than that we don't know much about each others lives and I've never met his fiance. As an added complication I slept with him a couple of times when we lived together but it was never a relationship.

I'd like to go to the wedding but I'm worried I'll feel like the biggest gooseberry alive, as the groom is the only person i'll know. I'm not really the sort of person who is fine in at a party where they don't know anyone else and I always feel awkward at weddings anyway. However, the invite says 'Libby plus guest' as I'm single I won't be bringing a boyfriend but I was thinking I might take a friend. Maybe my best friend (who is female). Is this acceptable? Have other people taken friends with them to weddings? Or if you're married would you be annoyed if someone had done this at your wedding?

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4 replies since 21st February 2013 • Last reply 21st February 2013

Reply #1:

As you have a 'plus 1' invite I see no reason why this shouldn't be a friend, female or otherwise. You could always check with him by text if you need to.
It sucks being the singleton at weddings - there seems to be two types of reactions : 1) there's something wrong with you {why else would you still be single?} 2) you need 'setting up'
oh and the married women are suspiscious of your intentions towards their husbands meanwhile the husbands are busy telling you how 'misunderstood' they are and trying to get your number!
Sorry that probably hasn't made you feel better but I find it the best entertainment!!

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Reply #2:

Thanks for your reply Julie, it made me laugh! I think you're right, I'll text and check its ok. I always find weddings so cheesy, they seem really cliche.

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Reply #3:

Yes, you should go if you want to.

If it was something they felt awkward about then they would not have invited you (or at least shouldn't have) and because the invitation says plus 1 you can bring anyone you want, date, friend, family etc... Its considered rude to bring someone if the invitation doesn't specify to but other wise it doesn't need to be a "date" to be acceptable

Now if you don't want or feel comfortable going an invitation is yours to accept or reject.

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Reply #4:

Hey girls, I invited my best friend and she was really keen on the idea. Since the wedding is in a different part of the country we are taking some holiday in the following week and making it a mini break. Thanks for the advice now I just have the gift to worry about!

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