Friendship Problems

I just have to love you =)

dan't worry I'm not mad, thease things just happen :S I understand what you's saying and I understand I've changed, but changing is good to ;) althought it woul'd be easyer if things woul'd thay just the same I stil concider you as my best friend and although we are going throuh a 'hard fase' we'll make ist out I'm sure you will not lose me so easally ;) I'm just verry happy that vera can be there if I can not! so vera, do what you do now, becouse what you're doing is the right thing to do nice sentense he I'll try to be more into and stuff but I to have a verry buissy life, you know, school,other friends who claime me, my bf, homework,more homework, more more homework, doing stuff i what to do al allone.... and I can go on like that for a little wile xD but don't worry, we will always be friends
I <3 you to (K)

whaha first word and I already made a spellingmistake xD you all can see it must be Don't he
sorryy xD

no problem^^
now i'm happy =D

good oh and, you're post are getting shorter just 2 lines!!1 I'm soo proud xD

It's hard to make lasting friends no matter what your age. People move around so much these days it's easy to lose contact. We live in such a fast moving world that sometimes it's difficult to keep in touch. The mobile phone is great for quick messages but not for meaningful conversations.

I believe many people have lost the art of conversation where there's give and take and a chance for all to say what they feel.

People come and go throughout a lifetime. Some losses will hurt more because of the energy you have invested in the friendship. Ask yourself 'were they a true friend or an aquaintance?'

People who are true friends are few. They will love you & dislike you for your opinions but will defend you against strangers when they may disagree with you, then talk gently to you later about it.

I too tell people what I think. Being honest with yourself and others is a gift. Please be yourself and believe in what you stand for

Peace & blessings x

I lost all my "friends" when my ex-fiancee showed his true sociopathic side; he was able to twist the truth so well that people would believe him if he said the sky was orange--and I say that literally. Thankfully, however, I do now have a handful of true friends, who I met via my exchange trip, college, and moving. I think I have only one real friend left from high school, and one left from middle school.

Things change, and people come and go. I think only time tells who your true friends really are.

Mm I feel your pain. I'm 18 and just in uni now, so I've been through secondary school, college and now started up university, which means a few changes. My best friend? I've known her since I was born. We've always lived round the corner from each other, we went to Rainbows and Brownies, and then college together, and now I live in York and she lives in London and we don't talk as much but I know if I need her I can always count on her and when we hang out, it's like we've never been apart. Most of the people I was friends with in school and college, I'm not friends with any more. My school friends mostly found some way or other to betray me, or let me down, and my college friends were largely people I knew from school but never really hung out with, and this one other amazing girl who now doesn't want to talk to me because she's become Christian and doesn't want to be friends with a Wiccan (this has happened much more than I'm comfortable with lately). I also have a group of friends I met through my last boyfriend, and they are some of the most fantastic people I've ever met. And since I came to university I've made a few really good friends who I'm living with next year, I met my boyfriend and his friends are (mostly) great - some can be completely two-faced though.

My problem is I'm quite picky. As far as I'm concerned, if someone does something bad it's not a case of just forgiving them, it's "do I want to be friends with someone who would do this?" Like Andy's housemate Becky - SO nice to me at first, helped me out with Andy, invited me out to girly nights and that. Then she starts telling me how she and Andy slept together one time, and it's like, okay, doesn't bother me. Then starts trying to make me fight with this other girl who likes Andy, but I didn't see the point. Now ignores me mostly, didn't say thank you for her Christmas present and is always "busy" when I want to see her - but then will suddenly be LOVELY to me. I just don't want to be friends with someone like that. But yeah, I can't be friends with people who are racist or sexist or homophobic (I'll take jokes but when it's actually a value of theirs - no thank you) and anyone who treats people like crap (I try and stay away from Andy's friend who tried to cheat on his girlfriend with my best friend up here and tries to make us feel bad for having sex, oh and punched my really good friend Stevie!)

I'm just picky. Humanity as a whole disgusts me and I can't just pretend everything's okay and fill my life with horrible people. I need people who make me feel safe.

Hi Knittin' Kitten

I don't think you 'picky' at all, your principled and have a good set of values. Wish there were more people like you

peace & blessings

I agree with Shelia

Honey from what i can read,you haven't actually done anything wrong,i think its just a case that you are a glass is half full person and she is a glass is half empty person......if she's going to be like this with you over something so simple as getting a job,what is she going to be like when her life changes again???don't worry,you didn't need to apologise,there's nothing to apologise for.

Here, Here (nods in appreciation for a point well made)

ahahaha i love helena's picture.
yeah, if you and someone don't connect you cant be good friends, you can't help that!

Caity & Suzi - it's a good thing you two managed to sort things out, but the thing with friendships is that they don't always die to extreme differences, sometimes they die out not because you dislike one another, but because your lives change. One comment by Caity stood out to me. Before my friend Sophie moved to Cambridge she said that she would be passing her driving test and coming back down to London to visit us most weekends and she said "you can't get rid of me that easily!" We all believed her, however she has been gone for nearly a year now (I still see her at Uni) but she hasn't come out of her way to come and see us all - well only once - THAT'S IT!! And it isn't like she hasn't come down at all, she's come down to "get hers" from some guy we used to go to school with and go to the pub with him and get pissed outta her head. She comes down ALL THE TIME AND DOESN'T TELL US!!!! So as tough as it seems its best not to make promises that can't be kept - not saying you can't just a friendly note.

Knittin Kitten - I can't believe someone will stop being friends with you for being Wiccan - compleatly shallow. You are not picky you have standards...

I've made a new friend... well we were acquaintences from our second year at Uni but we have recently grown closer. I can't wait to leave Uni still and start a fresh new life!!

Bec, it's actually happened a few times lately. I'm getting so fed up with it. And they always tell me what a bad person I am, and make me feel awful and wonder what I've done - cause I consider myself quite a good person, despite all my flaws - then they tell me it's cause I'm Wiccan, or I enjoy sex or something. And then I'm just angry because I don't like being made to feel bad when I haven't done a single thing to hurt anyone.