racism... any advice?

Yeah Abbyka, it "may be" a while before they do anything, but I have seen it too many times in the news about bullying, where to me it's going to be down right illegal with some serious consequences.

I understand to a degree what you're saying Dessah, but younger children don't have that ability to have that type of mindset, for older children in high school and older people that would probably apply to. But of course there are some older people too that CANNOT do what you're suggestion. So I for one don't think you're being rude, but you have to remember that not everybody has the mental capacity to think like that. If that were the case, then there would be no bullies.

Abbyka just because I'm curious what was the name of this school?

But the best you can do is ignore him. If it continues for too long you should go to your principal because from the way it sounds he is being racist and sexist.

I get where you are coming from Dessah but in the real world that's not how it works. If someone makes a remark to me that is harassment at work I have to tell my HR department. I can't just shrug it off as whatever because it can get worse before it gets better if I don't act. Letting a person know that it isn’t acceptable to talk to others in that way is important.

Trust me, I've dealt with bullying my whole life like most other people and in high school I handled it my own way- usually laughing it off or by throwing people off. My freshman and sophomore years all the cheerleaders went around calling me a lesbian and swearing up and down that I made out with my best friend at school football games. My junior year I was sat next to two cheerleaders in one of my classes and I made friendly conversation with them and then casually brought my boyfriend up in the conversation. They started asking me about it because they both swore they saw me making out with such and such girl at such and such game which I found funny because I hadn't even attended that game. My class president told me to kill myself my senior year and I dealt with that by laughing it off and then talking to him as if we were old friends when I ran into him a few years later. But the way I handle it isn't the norm. Most people do get upset when people repeatedly make cruel remarks to them.

The best way to handle something like this is the same way you would in the real world, by taking it to those who should be dealing with it and having them deal with the person.

also think of it this way, they are all sheep. The poke fun, teese and bully because they want to be you. I was teesed, bullied for being different. and I still am when I go home to visit.They think its strange that I am 29, unmarried with no childern. I am boheamian, I live pay check to pay check. I like my life, I have my dog, my awesome career as a graphic designer.

just remember that maybe, just maybe. They want to be you. I will still talk to someone in your school about it, attention should be paied to this.

specially will all the suisides happening now after these bullys have taken their toll

I went to Mynderse Academy in Seneca Falls, NY.

You girls are probably right...but I can only speak from my personal experience. At one time I was in such a poor frame of mind that I wouldn't even go to Wal-mart because I was afraid that I wasn't "good enough" or would be laughed at, or someone would think I was ugly, stupid, fat...etc. etc. etc.

When I discovered how to see the big picture (as I like to phrase it) my whole life changed. It literally freed my spirit. To be able to not only understand your own mind, and why you act the way you do, but to also take a look into the mind of others and to see them as separate individuals with their own whirlwind of emotions and problems, is so liberating. You feel less drama, less stress, and are able to view antagonists in a different light, and diffuse unfavorable situations.

At least in my experience.

I understand that not everyone can just flip a switch and think differently. There's a lot of mental work involved. You have to practice it daily. But it really is a mind set that I feel is worth the effort. (Really helps in relationships too) ;)

I'm such a happier person now, and I wish someone would have explained this to me when I was younger.

That sucks that you guys had to go through bullying when you were younger :/ I think there def. is a lot more help for kids now compared to a few years back, or at least I get that idea. But, thank you all a lot for your help! yall are awesome and I know what to do now...

P.S I don't think I could pull off the filthy immigrant thing, ha.

Definitely talk to a teacher or even the principal about this. It sucks, and ironically, I know--one girl at my old high school used to call my ex-boyfriend and me nazis because we have blonde hair, blue eyes, and are half-German. We endured it for ages--once I got fed up with her harassment (which extended to other insults), I told an instructor. The girl never said anything again, and we were in the same school for at least another year and a half together.

You'd be amazed what authority a teacher can have over someone who pretends not to care. :-P

God I wish it had worked that way in my school! The teachers were terrified of the bullies and never did anything about it. I was bullied my whole way through secondary school but they never did a thing about it. But then I'm kinda glad that I learnt how to deal with it myself - you're not always gonna have someone to look after you, and I'd rather toughen up young than discover later on that I have no defense mechanisms.

Knittin' I'm glad you were able to handle it but a lot of kids can't. I hope they do make it against the law to allow bullying to continue, make some of these meek teachers actually do something about it instead of hiding behind their desk. If I hadn't dropped out I might have been one of the many kids that have taken their own lives because of bullying. I shouldn't have had to drop out though, the school should have done something to protect me.

So sorry to hear about that Abbyka, that is just so wrong that you had to go through that and have no one talk to at school leaving you with the only choice was to quit. Sadly that happens too often.

I was bullied to some degree in middle school and some resulted in fights, none I started but only to defend myself. Didn't matter if I won the fight or not, they left me alone afterward. Couldn't really tell anybody at school about it because it was like after school during the walk home and my parents would tell me ignore them, but of course if they put their hands on me then do what I have to protect myself and I did. In high school, the same bullies that I had fight before became my friends. Guess it was like I had to stand up to them to get some respect.

My childhood wasn't bad like it may seem, I had fun growing up with some true friends, but like everybody else there were some things I wish I didn't have to go through.

Ignoring bullies didn't work for me, it made things worse. When I started ignoring them they started throwing cereal soaked in milk at me and even picked a fight with me at one point. Though after that fight they did leave me alone for a year or two because I did beat the ever loving crap out of the girl. I don't even remember the fight, I either blocked the memories or my mind shut down during the whole thing.

Abbyka, I went through a very similar experience. I didn't drop out, but I did end up moving to a different country. :-P (Obviously not the only reason, but it was so freeing to be ABLE to get away.) It was hard to get away from these people even after I'd graduated because it was such a small town. -.-

I moved out of state as soon as I could. And even after I got dragged back by my ex I ran as soon as I could to get out of that town again. I told my mom I'll never live there.

This is how we fixed the problem @ our kid's school...... We, the parents and our kid, went to the principal with a lawyer's card (any lawyer's card will do) , and with a serious face as we handed the card to the principal said, " If the disrespectful kid is not gone by next week, our lawyer will start a sexual harassment suit against the school, and against YOU personally for failing to protect our kid".......... Then we walked out........... The mean kid was gone the next day PERMANENTLY! Problem solved.....