How do i manage my boyfriend?

My husband works all day,when he comes home everything is done already by me.I think its fair,because Im at home all the time,and he is the moneymaker.I dont know what will happen if i get a job...(low chance for that) When he comes home he loves to make late dinner for me.And on sunday hes at home,so we plan everything that we should do around the house.I love those sundays!

My boyfriend thinks cleaning relaxes the soul... O_O

Which works out for me since I constantly procrastinate.

Wow Jessica P. Definitely jealous!!

thats amazing, I had a roomate who though vacumming was relaxing.

He also enjoying knitting, sowing, cooking, and probably other stuff I just haven't seen yet. We're both learning how to make jewelry together. All the while still being very manly. (No offense to anyone. Most guys I know who enjoy these things tend to be more of the feminine type!)

It's a bit sad though. A lot of the girls he used to date are shocked when I mention these things. Which I guess makes me lucky. lol

The funny thing is I was preparing myself in middle school to deal with the typical idea of a guy. Guess how shocked I was when I saw him vacuuming and washing the dishes at the same time.

You shouldn't think of it as "managing" your boyfriend, it's a matter of accepting the fact that everyone is different.

If you both sit down and to discuss a problem and find a common solution, life together should work out well.
I believe the key is for both patrties to adjust to certain things and accept differences.

I know many women keep annoyances bottled in until they can't take it anymore, or they approach men in a way that makes them defensive -I still do it too at times, but it's not the right way to go about it.

Hopefully it helps you.

for my bf and me, its the other way around. i absolutely detest doing the dishes, so he usually does them (though i will--it is only fair.)

Last week when we cleaned, I scrubbed the toilet, cleaned the bathroom, and swept and mopped all the floors to get out of doing the dishes. ;)

Knittin' Kitten - Ok I'm lazy but not THAT lazy, I do some odd chores here and there, I'm not a dirty person, I'm just messy.
That is just plain gross and you shouldn't have to put up with it!! You should come up with some sort of rota, picking jobs that each of you would prefer perhaps. There will always be a job that no-one likes (cleaning toilets!!) but there should be a comprimise. Rota's on their own do not work (I'm not contradicting myself - HONEST1!). Typically because people like that have no follow through, therefore a punishment type system should be put into place for those that do not keep to their chores?

Jessica G - OMG that is just plain foul!!! No wonder why you ended up moving out. That is sick!!!

Jessica P - Oh how I envy you...

omg im laughing here because my bf is reading this and is saying annie is this post about you??? i have to say he's really good around the house.... he isnt into actual cleaning like mopping or vacuuming, but he really tries, like tidying and doing the laundry... its really sweet to see it when i come home and he's made this huge effort and its hard to tell him that the floors need to be mopped when hes tried so hard, we just kinda clean as we go... it works well enough for us.... i try not to let my frustration about things being messy show anymore as itled to alot of fights and at the end of the day he was trying his best to contribute. maybe your bf thinks e is still doing a good job, and doesnt realise that leaving things for a week before tackling them isn't the best solution and reallly only leaves more work for him at the end of the day....
i guess just be thankful that he tries to help

LOL

Aw Annie bless that's sweet...

Hi
Im a newbie to this site and had a bit of a laugh to myself about the b.freinds and hubbys that do not clean up
Men are diffrent to Woman
They are a lot like children and puppys
The earlier you start to train them the better they turn out
well its worked for me lol
I was married 20 odd years and hubby he was working full time I was a stay at home mum would do night shift with children if need be
would hoover and cleaning washing too
Then he had a heart attack and had to give up work aged 47 and he took over the house and I went out and done volunteering and sittin on a managment committee
I was busy most day but it was cool
Then after he died 2007
I started working
I hated it
and left but now have since re-married and my kids are grown up but my hubby
Hoovers,makes meals
So all the advice i can give you younger ones is
Try little rewards
Like a treat lol

Mind dont go over the top
Hope this gives you some insight
GOOD LUCK

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You can't "manage" a man. They hate that. The more you nag, the less they do! I've discovered that saying thank you goes a really long way. Men are like dogs. (lol) They like to be praised for every little thing. Tell him he's awesome and does a wonderful job helping out and that you couldn't do it without him. Then slap him on the butt or something. ;)

Sometimes my husband needs a gentle push. Like, "Oh, baby...would you help me clear out the kitchen so I can bake a cake?) Then if he has a huge load, ask if he'd like you to rinse. That way he at least doesn't feel like you're bossing him around.

And men don't think about stuff like women do. He doesn't care if his mom comes in unannounced and sees a mountain of dishes...or if mushrooms start growing in left over food!

good luck!

When I got married, I was sent this by a colleague... it might not make it better, but it might make you laugh




Dear Tech Support,

Last year I upgraded from Boyfriend 5.0 to Husband 1.0 and noticed a distinct slow down in overall system performance, particularly in the flower and jewellery applications, which operated flawlessly under Boyfriend 5.0.

In addition, Husband 1.0 uninstalled many other valuable programs, such as Romance 9.5 and Personal Attention 6.5 and then installed undesirable programs such as NBA 5.0, NFL 3.0 and Golf Clubs 4.1. Conversation 8.0 no longer runs, and Housecleaning 2.6 simply crashes the system.

I’ve tried running Nagging 5.3 to fix these problems, but to no avail. What can I do?

Signed,
Desperate


DEAR DESPERATE,

First keep in mind, Boyfriend 5.0 is an Entertainment Package, while Husband 1.0 is an operating system. Please enter command: ithoughtyoulovedme.html and try to download Tears 6.2 and don’t forget to install the Guilt 3.0 update. If that application works as designed, Husband 1.0 should then automatically run the applications Jewellery 2.0 and Flowers 3.5.

But remember, overuse of the above application can cause Husband 1.0 to default to Grumpy Silence 2.5, Happy Hour 7.0 or Beer 6.1. Please note that Beer 6.1 is a very bad program that will download the Snoring Loudly Beta. Whatever you do, DO NOT install Mother-in-Law 1.0 (it runs a virus in the background that will eventually seize control of all your system resource.) Also do not attempt to reinstall Boyfriend 5.0 program. These are unsupported applications and will crash Husband 1.0.

In summary, Husband 1.0 is a great program, but it does have limited memory and cannot learn new applications quickly. You might consider buying additional software to improve memory and performance. We recommend Cooking 3.0 and Hot Lingerie 7.7.

Good Luck,
Tech Support

You can't manage a man, but you can manage a house and timekeeping and chores, also check out flylady.com it's an amazing site that may just help.
and just a quick little thing... I wish I had a bf/husband to complain or brag about, sometimes you should just stand back and realize how lucky you are.